Cohousing-L Mailing List: kinship

[Elizabeth Magill (pastorliz]

I'm not sure what you are asking?
I assume not about how many people are in romantic relationships with  
no legal connection?

But rather, who has found that the neighbors kids become their kids,  
or that they are like a grandmother to Jo-lee, or that Juan is like a  
brother to me, since we moved into community?

Is that the question? And perhaps how does living in intentional  
community, as opposed to living in  more isolated neighborhoods,  
affect that?


-Liz
Mosaic Commons, Berlin MA
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On Aug 6, 2008, at 2:57 PM, balaji [at] ouraynet.com wrote:

> > From the perspective of a cultural anthropologist -- my stock and  
> > trade --
> I find it interesting that traditional cohousing communities (by  
> which I
> mean "villages") address the same issues by means of kinship  
> processes,
> either "real" or "fictive."  By "real" I mean the standard American
> definition, e.g., relations by "blood" and by "law."   
> "Fictive" (again,
> from our perspective) means the extension of kinship categories to  
> those
> we are not "really" related to.  I wonder . . . have any of you in
> cohousing communities found kinship (real, fictive, or whatever)  
> directly
> or surepticiously affecting your relationships with each other?
>
> Charles Nuckolls
> Utah Valley Commons
> www.utahvalleycommons.com
>
>
> > On Aug 5, 2008, at 11:16 AM, Sharon Villines wrote:
> >
> > > The determination of effective is in the results of the decision,  
> > > not
> > > the process that led to the decision.
> >
> > I need to clarify. This could be read, for example, that an
> > autocratically made decision is just as good as one that is the  
> > result
> > of a consensus process. It may be, but only if the group has decided
> > by consensus that certain decisions will be made autocratically.
> >
> > What I meant is that just because you hired a facilitator and spent 8
> > hours discussing whether the roof should be red or blue, will not
> > produce  an effective decision if the roofing only comes in green or
> > the red and blue are both colors that will fade in 6 months to brown.
> >
> > The weekend may have produced bonding, etc., but how effective was  
> > the
> > decision about choosing a roof color to compliment the color of the
> > siding?
> >
> > That's what I meant about process not being the criterion on which  
> > one
> > measures the effectiveness of a decision. Examining the process  
> > may be
> > helpful in understanding where you got off track, however, or how you
> > stayed on track.
> >
> > Sharon
> > ----
> > Sharon Villines
> > Sociocracy, a Deeper Democracy
> > http://www.sociocracy.info
> >
> >
> >
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