Re: Disengaged households
From: Rob Sandelin (
Date: Mon, 2 Nov 2009 08:09:33 -0800 (PST)
Living  in a social community can sound good up front, all the things you
get from it, but after awhile the costs start to show up.  For some people
living in community is not a good fit and they withdraw and later move.
This is pretty normal. It can be painful all around when people no longer
want to be there. My advice is to give them space, help find replacement
people to buy their stake, and move on.  I recall once doing an intervention
for a community where two households were demanding the whole community make
substantial changes or they would leave. My advice was to let them leave,
and they did, and those who replaced them were grateful and happy to live in
such a great community.

Rob Sandelin
Snohomish County, WA 

-----Original Message-----
From: dmcfe [at] [mailto:dmcfe [at]] 
Sent: Monday, November 02, 2009 7:58 AM
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Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Disengaged households

 Could you give some more info of the nature of the disengagement generally?



-----Original Message-----
From: Fred H Olson <fholson [at]>
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Sent: Sun, Nov 1, 2009 6:48 pm
Subject: [C-L]_ Disengaged households

David Entin <davidentin [at]>
is the author of the message below.  It was posted by Fred, the Cohousing-L
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Our community is wrestling with the problem of four disengaged households
who have said they want to leave and put their houses up for sale.  But some
of these are doing little to market their units and seem slow to move on, a
problem compounded by a poor real estate market..  Their disengagement means
the loss of active members for a sustained a period of time.  We were
wondering if other communities faced this problem and found any creative
solutions?  If so, we'd love to hear about it.

David Entin,
Rocky Hill Cohousing, Northampton, MA.

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