Re: Disengaged households
From: PattyMara Gourley (
Date: Tue, 3 Nov 2009 08:27:51 -0800 (PST)
"I don't think any of us joined community in order to have more work to do."

Amen, Sister Eris!

Disengagement may also be a sad consequence of unresolved polarized
conflict/trauma within a community.

The hard work of conflict resolution requires more time and energy than many
are willing or able to commit.  When conflict issues are postponed or
ignored (particularly if trauma/ptsd is involved), it takes its toll on the

Disengagement from meals, community meetings, work days and parties is the
cost of not facing and resolving conflict in a timely, compassionate


2009/11/3 Eris Weaver <eris [at]>

> I thought it interesting that many of the responses to this question
> focused
> on participation in WORK. I did not read David's original post to focus
> solely on that kind of participation.
> There are many types of participation in community; some of them fall into
> our workshare systems. People participate in social events, in emotional
> support for each other, taking care of children, many ways that don't fall
> into that one system.
> I don't think any of us joined community in order to have more work to do.
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> Eris Weaver
> FrogSong, Cohousing in Cotati, CA
> Facilitator & Group Process Consultant
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