|Cohousing vs. communal||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Brian Tremback (brian.trembackgmail.com)|
|Date: Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:12:58 -0800 (PST)|
"We would like to have more direct engagement with the people we live with. We would like to live in a more communal arrangement than most cohousing communities seem to afford. "We're looking to create a larger extended family. "Our vision involves the joint purchase of a larger house in our area, possibly a farm or existing multifamily house. Common kitchen/dining, common living room, a general opening up of the house, while preserving private bedrooms and other personal spaces." Alex, I'm sure you know that during the 70's such experiments in intentional communities were fairly common. If you haven't already, you might want to read some books about those days, like Kat Kinkade's "A Walden Two Experiment" or "Is It Utopia Yet?" about her experiences at Twin Oaks, an egalitarian community she helped found in 1967, and still exists. As someone who currently lives in cohousing, and in the late 70's in a different sort of intentional community (one of the Federation of Egalitarian Communities), I will admit that, for me, cohousing offers a much better mix between sociality and autonomy. At the intentional community where I lived, each member only had a small private bedroom in a dormitory style building. Every other space was shared with the other 65 members of the community. So this was not too dissimilar from the communal arrangement you're describing, but on a larger scale. I don't know if you've had experience in this sort of living arrangement. If not, you should be prepared for a completely different social dynamic from what you're used to. To expect a communal house to function as an extended family is overlooking the roles played by family members - specifically authority figures who provide for their dependents - and the biological and cultural adaptations to those roles. Those roles aren't relevant for a group of unrelated adults. A communal living arrangement will probably affect many aspects of your social life - your relationship with your partner, your children, your friends outside your household. If you can imagine sharing most of your living space with other people outside your own family, and that vision is appealing, then you might be all set. The bottom line is that, to have a sustainable living situation, it will have to be more rewarding than it is taxing. Brian Tremback Burlington Cohousing Burlington, VT
Cohousing vs. communal Alex Kent, February 14 2010
- Cohousing vs. communal Brian Tremback, February 14 2010
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