|Re: advice on resolving conflicts||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com)|
|Date: Thu, 4 Mar 2010 07:05:45 -0800 (PST)|
One of the dichotomies of cohousing is there are process people who like to talk about feelings and process conflicts and so living in a cohousing group feeds that. The other side are people who want a secure and comfortable place where they have friendly neighbors, but do not have very much, if any, interest in personal growth sorts of things. The process people (and I am one) tend to expect everybody to be the former because that is THEIR expectation of what community is about. Yet cohousing is a big tent, much bigger in many ways than other forms of intentional community, and so lack of energy towards processing emotional stuff has more space. You do not have to deal with peoples dramas or group dramas if you don't want to. The process people will jump right in, but there are likely people who did not move into your group to do group therapy and may even resent being expected to do so, and to a non-process oriented person, "group conflict resolution" often looks and smells like group therapy. Rob Sandelin 20 years resident at Sharingwood
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