Re: Parenting in Cohousing | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Jessie (jehakome.com) | |
Date: Mon, 13 Jun 2011 11:00:29 -0700 (PDT) |
Hi- I have one cohousing teen still at home and one 20 year old who just began to move out (into a cohousing neighbor's cross town rental property.). We have lived in a couple of cohousing neighborhoods. My experience is that there are a couple more key variables. First, was the teen in question raised in cohousing pretty much all their lives? If yes, have a community meeting about screen time, invite the tweens and teens and come to an agreement. They will probably expect to be part of the solution and the discussion may surprise you. If they were not raised in cohousing, they may not be willing to come to a meeting. You may still want to have a community discussion about how much screen time limits belong to the family and how much to the community. Second, how many opportunities have you given your kid to have parts of their life independent from or away from you? At 14, kids really need to "untie the apron strings" and test the rules. If the worst your teen is doing is sitting in front of screens in the commonhouse a bit too much, pat yourself on the back. That's rock and roll. It's the sex and drugs you really need to watch out for. Another point about TV in the common house, it can easily turn into a social event, like watching a movie together. Cohousing is a great environment to stretch safely in. One year my daughter house sat for another member while they were on vacation. She was three doors down but "away" and responsible for two cats and several chores. My son does odd jobs for a member in a wheelchair. They both help on cooking teams (voluntarily) but they don't always want to be on cooking teams with their parents. My two cents, Jessie Handforth Kome Eastern Village Cohousing Silver Spring, MD "Where the green roof is in lovely lovely bloom."
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