Re: seeking co housing
From: Mary Ann Clark (
Date: Sun, 30 Jun 2013 16:17:12 -0700 (PDT)
You are overly romantic. It is the experience of living &working together in 
community that is extraordinary. Joining an existing community isn't without it 
challenges--they're different and in many ways more intense when you're 
actually living with your neighbors. 

Being in love is extraordinary but actually living every day with your beloved, 
that's when your commitment is truly tested.

Mary Ann
From Manzanita Village where we're preparing to celebrate 25 years of community

Don't sweat the petty things, and don't pet the sweaty things. (From 

On Jun 30, 2013, at 2:30 PM, R Philip Dowds <rpdowds [at]> wrote:

> Hmm.  I would have said that the extraordinary experience of finding and 
> buying land, commissioning a design, struggling through difficult zoning 
> rules, bargaining with contractors and attorneys -- not to mention forging a 
> unique set of communal relations, agreements, duties and norms, all under the 
> pressure of getting through a multi-year project experience largely 
> unfamiliar to most of the participants -- all this, somewhat like combat in a 
> war, creates interpersonal bonds far different from those that are typical 
> for those who later move into finished construction and established community.
> Or, do I over-dramatize?
> Sent from my iPad
> On Jun 30, 2013, at 4:17 PM, Mary Ann Clark <drmaryanngroups [at]> 
> wrote:
>> There are several existing groups in AZ. Why not check them out. There's 
>> nothing magical about joining a forming group (in my experience). 
>> Mary Ann
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