Re: Question about "dining clubs"
From: Mariana Almeida (
Date: Sat, 14 Sep 2013 15:47:42 -0700 (PDT)
Can you talk more about what is the evidence that the existence of these two 
groups siphon off interest in more group meals? 

We have three meals shared in our community each week, and I'm having trouble 
with the logic. How does having a group that keeps 4 families from cooking each 
week take away from  the existence of a common meal on other days of the week? 
Is it assumed that those families simply won't participate in another common 
meal in a week? Have you asked them individually?

What is the desired goal of your meal program  -- one meal a week? more?

Just some questions to help us understand and see if we can elicit more points 
of view. (FYI, we dont have this particular thing happening in my community.)

Also it would help to understand how big your cohousing is. 


> From: Jennifer Taub <jennifer.taub [at]>
>To: cohousing-l [at] 
>Sent: Friday, September 13, 2013 2:33 PM
>Subject: [C-L]_ Question about "dining clubs"
>In addition to our community meals program (small, but seems to be working
>ok), we have two "dining clubs" that have formed. Each group is "closed" -
>members started on their own and have never opened the group up to new
>households. One of the groups started because we did not have a good
>community meals program at the time, and they wanted to eat more meals
>together. The other group formed much more recently, and is comprised
>mostly of younger families who recently moved in close together (although
>not exclusively). They follow this structure:
>   -
>   - 4-5 households belong
>   - Each household takes a turn cooking each week for the group
>   - No money changes hands
>   - Eating is in community spaces
>   - One of the groups has publicly invited others to join in via bringing
>   their own meals, the other group has not
>As we work to pull together more full community meals, these arrangements
>have three drawbacks:
>1) Those who most enjoy cooking and eating together aren't available
>2) The community's common space is in use (some of it)
>3) Hurt feelings by those who are left out. Each group formed amongst
>themselves - neither was done openly.
>Our community is split on the issue. Those in the clubs, of course, love
>them. They enjoy the intimacy of the smaller group, find cooking meals for
>a more limited group far less intimidating, and some folks like that no
>money changes hands. Those who have more means will buy pricier
>ingredients, those with less means will cook more simply on their nights.

Results generated by Tiger Technologies Web hosting using MHonArc.