Re: divorce in cohousing
From: Elizabeth Magill (
Date: Mon, 10 Feb 2014 18:42:07 -0800 (PST)
wow! at five years old I feel our community is too young to have a strong 

but we've had two divorces where all parties still own homes here, and live 
here, and as we head into a third divorce in process many people are working 
hard to help one member to find a rental so they can stay.

I don't know if we are setting ourselves up for more challenges (we've 
certainly had some) but I also can't imagine telling the parent of a child 
living here that the parent can't be a member.

(The Rev.) Elizabeth M. Magill

On Feb 10, 2014, at 9:06 PM, Doug Huston <huston [at]> wrote:

> At times I’ve read on this list serve how stressful break-ups/divorces have 
> been on communities. 
> In our community, we are considering the following proposal: 
> When a couple breaks up, the person who moves out of the community is 
> automatically no longer a member of the community. 
> This means he/she cannot be an off-site member, a category which exist for 
> some communities.
> This would be the default situation. Exceptions could be considered. If after 
> one year the member who moved out wants to re-join, the group could choose to 
> consider this - or not.
> The intention behind this is to insulate the community (to some extent) from 
> the common challenges, stress, and tensions which usually accompany 
> break-ups, and would likely be heightened if both parties remain formally 
> involved in community activities. 
> We are wondering what others in communities think, and if there are similar 
> or related policies regarding break-ups elsewhere in cohousing. 
> Thanks for your comments in advance.
> Doug Huston - Ashland (Oregon) Cohousing Community 
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