Re: divorce in cohousing | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Diana Carroll (dianaecarroll![]() |
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Date: Thu, 13 Feb 2014 05:18:51 -0800 (PST) |
On Wed, Feb 12, 2014 at 11:00 AM, Lyle Scheer <wonko [at] monkeyhouse.org> wrote: > > > OK... first an admission. I'm the half of a divorce in Ashland > cohousing that I think triggered this discussion request from Doug. > ... > > One of the trickiest parts in my personal divorce was around who stayed > in co-housing... neither of us wanted to leave. To have a policy that > automatically forces one to leave just piles more stress on to the whole > thing. > > Lyle, I'm sorry you are going through this tough thing. Divorce and its impact on the family is hard enough, made harder still trying to handle the impact on a whole community. I hope you, your (ex)spouse and your fellow Ashland community members are all able to move through this with a minimum of anger and hurt. I don't see how creating a policy against the community involvement of you or your (ex)spouse is going to insulate the community...if anything, it will surely make it worse because it forces people not involved in the family to take sides. Even if such a policy was advisable in the long run (and I can't see how it is), trying to push it through while the wounds of a recent divorce are still fresh is surely the worst time to do it. I've found that policies creating during the aftermath of an "issue" are usually reactive instead of proactive, and make for poor policies that will have unintended consequences down the road. Good luck. Diana
- Conflict Resolution [was: divorce in cohousing, (continued)
- Conflict Resolution [was: divorce in cohousing Sharon Villines, February 12 2014
- Re: Conflict Resolution [was: divorce in cohousing Joanie Connors, February 12 2014
- Re: divorce in cohousing Lyle Scheer, February 12 2014
- Re: divorce in cohousing Rick Gravrok, February 12 2014
- Re: divorce in cohousing Diana Carroll, February 13 2014
- Re: divorce in cohousing Sharon Villines, February 13 2014
- Re: divorce in cohousing Doug Huston, February 13 2014
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