Re: divorce in cohousing
From: Karen Scheer (
Date: Mon, 17 Feb 2014 08:56:57 -0800 (PST)
Good questions, Sharon. The reaction of this community to conflict says more 
about the tendency of some individuals to try to control life under the guise 
of doing what they think is for "the good of the majority." 

Were a "divorce policy" to be put in place it might actually help insulate 
others from joining a group that would try to dictate other people's lives to 
this extent.  

Understanding this helps me to not take all this personally.  Unfortunately, I 
did not realize the true nature of this group until I had already invested 
myself and my family and leaving was too difficult. 

The impact this has had on me and my family has been enormous.  I hope that 
lessons have been learned by all and no one else will have to go through such a 
painfully intrusive experience.   But, unfortunately, I think that the heart of 
the matter remains in the shadows.  

-Karen Scheer
Ashland,  OR

On Feb 15, 2014, at 9:00 AM, Sharon Villines <sharon [at]> 

> Why would a divorce be treated any differently than any other conflict?
> Why would the community be any more involved than in any other conflict?
> Do you approve other community members?
> Rhetorical questions to shift the focus.
> Sharon
> ----
> Sharon Villines, Washington DC
> "I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a 
> desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.”
> ― E.B. White
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