|Re: What should we be worked about?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Martha Wagner (wordbizpdxgmail.com)|
|Date: Wed, 18 Jun 2014 14:08:09 -0700 (PDT)|
Martha Wagner writing/editing/proofreading www.marthawagner.com http://www.linkedin.com/in/marthawagner (503) 319-3353 On Jun 18, 2014, at 3:16 AM, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org wrote: Send Cohousing-L mailing list submissions to cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org To subscribe or unsubscribe via the World Wide Web, visit http://lists.cohousing.org/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l or, via email, send a message with subject or body 'help' to cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org You can reach the person managing the list at cohousing-l-owner [at] cohousing.org When replying, please edit your Subject line so it is more specific than "Re: Contents of Cohousing-L digest..." Today's Topics: 1. What SHOULD I be worried about? (Michelle Burce) 2. Re: What SHOULD I be worried about? (R Philip Dowds) 3. Re: What SHOULD I be worried about? (Mary Kaplan) 4. Re: What SHOULD I be worried about? (Sharon Villines) 5. Re: What SHOULD I be worried about? (R Philip Dowds) 6. Re: What SHOULD I be worried about? (Sharon Villines) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Message: 1 Date: Mon, 16 Jun 2014 15:24:51 -0700 From: Michelle Burce <michelleburce [at] gmail.com> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Subject: [C-L]_ What SHOULD I be worried about? Message-ID: <CAGAYeuVRcRFopb=VRGZpFvC2c0-M-UOV4Sr-bVp48Um0QfUgmQ [at] mail.gmail.com> Content-Type: text/plain; charset=UTF-8 Hi everyone! I'm part of a group working to build cohousing, and the resources available on this list and its archives have been AMAZINGLY helpful! Thank you all for sharing your wisdom over the years. So far, many of my fears have been allayed by this list, since so many of the responses to various problems seem to be "Communicate with your neighbors and it will all work out fine." Choosing who gets which lot? "We haven't had too many conflicts." Reserving the common house? "Usually not a problem." Worried about too little privacy? "Don't worry too much." So my question to you cohousing veterans is: What should we be worried about / work out in advance / get a good plan for NOW? What are the bumps in the road that actually take a solid process, or a professional, or a lot more money than we think? What one (or two or three) piece(s) of advice would you give some folks who have a group formed and meeting, have land and architects picked out, but have not yet dropped the huge sums of money to make this happen? I think we, as cohousing newbies, might be focusing our energies in worrying about those things that can get worked out, but are not seeing the things that can stymie a whole community. Thanks everyone! Michelle Hello Michelle: As others have suggested, you don't "need" to be worried but I would suggest your group think seriously about learning nonviolent communication (NVC) or participate in some other type of communication training before you move in and if people don't want to do that, find out why. When disagreements arise, you will be very glad that your members have that as a foundation. I speak from experience, as my community did not do this. If you are located near other cohousing groups, consider them as resources. In my area we have a quarterly potluck/meeting of cohousing communities that is informal and attended by a small number from various communities. Martha Wagner Portland, OR
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