|Common meals - mandatory participation?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Pat Elliott (pdelliott43gmail.com)|
|Date: Thu, 31 Jul 2014 16:33:22 -0700 (PDT)|
Hi everyone, Until a recent community discussion about common meals, most of us had thought our common meals program was working fairly well after almost two years of living here. At that meeting, we learned, to the surprise of most of us, that for members of two or three households participating in the program is painful, if not traumatic, whether as members of cook teams or eating at common meals. They would like common meal participation to be completely voluntary, which means they won't participate at all, or at least that they receive a complete exemption. And possibly others will decide to do the same. We had a community agreement before moving in that called for mandatory participation on a cook team once a month. While I sometimes have to nudge folks, generally all have complied except when folks are gone, ill, or otherwise unable to participate. We are a senior, retired community so there is lots of traveling, etc. Nudging would be difficult, or at least useless, with a completely voluntary program, I fear, leading to a breakdown or serious diminishment of the program. Many, if not most (though clearly not all) of us, agree with Katie M. that common meals are the heart of cohousing. My question is whether other communities have a satisfactory "voluntary" common meals program. More broadly, I would be very interested in receiving descriptions or written agreements regarding other communities' common meals program and descriptions of how your program is actually working, whether in accordance with a community agreement or not. If you are sending a document, you can send to me at either pdelliott43 [at] gmail.com or (easier to get right) pat6 [at] me.com. Thanks in advance for your comments, etc. I apologize if this is well-ploughed territory for many of you. Pat Elliott Wolf Creek Lodge
- Common meals - mandatory participation? Pat Elliott, July 31 2014
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