|Re: A Glimps of Cohousing in 2060||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com)|
|Date: Wed, 24 Dec 2014 07:20:33 -0800 (PST)|
On Dec 23, 2014, at 8:23 AM, Tom Smyth <tom [at] sassafras.coop> wrote: > I sure hope and believe consensus decision making is not a fad. Since it's been around since the dawn of civilization, I doubt if it can ever be considered a fad. Majority vote as a governance method is much more recent. > I think a > key part of our evolution as a species is to stop being so oppressive > toward everyone who isn't exactly like us. This is exactly what consensus > decision making is for, and it seems far more natural than its > alternatives. In the grand scheme of things I hope majority rule is the > passing fad. We have an Arab member who believes that majority vote has saved civilization because he has lived under autocracies in which various groups are always at war. "You have thrown out the greatest invention people have ever known." In the western world we have political battles but the mayor of NYC doesn't call out the National Guard on a whim to enforce his rules about 8oz sodas or make life and death decisions about teachers who use the wrong textbook or destroy schools that allow girls. Consensus decision-making requires that all the people concerned have the same aim. And that can be just as oppressive as majority vote. What about people who don't want to consent but the group requires consent. In my community those who don't want to consent or to be seen as consenting to decisions they aren't comfortable with, just don't show up for the decision-making meeting. They don't want to consent, but they also want to move on. To stop arguing about it and to be out of the position of everyone wanting to make things right so they can all be on the same side. Majority vote has its place in decision-making, and can be less oppressive than coercive consensus. In sociocracy, the group consents to various decision-making methods. Each one is better for certain situations than others. Consensus requires a common aim. That doesn't always exist. > Cohousing in Michigan seems to be extremely white. I honestly > am not really sure why this is. I have a few theories. Anybody have any > insight? What can we do to make it more diverse? Has this topic come up on > this list before? Having worked with collaborative, progressive efforts since the 1970s, I've learned that minorities do not want to compound their minority status. Cohousers are a distinct a minority. If I have the only green family in town, I don't want to them also live in the only purple striped house or the only set of purple striped houses. One distinctive feature is enough. Even very privileged people feel that privilege when they are the only privileged person around. The "socio" in sociocracy means "social". Governance by social groups, people in communities, those who associate with each other. A community forms circles of people with common aims within the larger community aim. Cohousing communities are too small to include many circles of any size. People like to share what they enjoy. They don't want to feel as if they have to adjust, change, or hide things that make them comfortable. It isn't sharing if you are the only one who likes it. Who wants to sit around and drink beer and watch football with a bunch of people who don't like beer and don't understand football? It isn't relaxing no matter how "tolerant" the other people are or how hard they try. How many Republicans live in cohousing? How many billionaires? Practicing Muslims? Army Majors? Do we beat ourselves up about not including them? (We actually do have one Major but I'm guessing she is the only one in any cohousing community anywhere. It may sound like I'm ranting but I just haven't had breakfast yet so I'm writing fast.) Sharon ---- Sharon Villines Sociocracy: A Deeper Democracy http://www.sociocracy.info
- Re: A Glimps of Cohousing in 2060, (continued)
- Re: A Glimps of Cohousing in 2060 Ken Winter, December 24 2014
- Re: A Glimps of Cohousing in 2060 Sharon Villines, December 24 2014
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