Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com) | |
Date: Sat, 7 Nov 2015 10:43:06 -0800 (PST) |
> On Nov 6, 2015, at 9:53 PM, Timothy Miller <gandalf [at] > doctorTimothyMiller.com> wrote: > > I started subscribing to this list because I’m interested in possibly living > in a co-housing community some day. I would look for a community that had > some reasonable rules intended to help the residents live comfortably and > harmoniously. If, after moving in, I found the rules were not enforced, I > would be very disappointed and angry. Rules against feeding feral cats, for > example, as a previous message on this thread mentioned. On this whole subject of policing. When we have had community discussions about issues, I have found them very helpful. The open discussion itself resolved the problem. One about pets, for example, in which the pet owner had no idea that others felt the way they did about her cats wandering around on the tables on a common porch. In a discussion about a misbehaving teen, everyone was able to express their fears and adopt a series of safety and support measures to help everyone cope until he “grew out of it.” He was actually angry and acting out so he could return to live with his mother, which he was eventually allowed to do. The discussion led to this realization and resolution. In another on the effect of children in meetings on people who didn’t have children and weren’t used to ignoring their fidgeting and babbling. Rather than tell parents to control their children, we hired child care during meetings. So just raising the issue in open discussion has helped us a lot. But as I said before, in other cases it is a systemic problem and not one that can be corrected by personal behavior. We have a problem with bike parking, for example. Discussion won’t solve it. Sharon ---- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org
- Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator, (continued)
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Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator Timothy Miller, November 6 2015
- Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator Chris Gallagher, November 7 2015
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Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator Malcom Eva, November 7 2015
- Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator R Philip Dowds, November 7 2015
- Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator Sharon Villines, November 7 2015
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Re: enforcement of cohousing rules and community listserv guidelines/moderator Timothy Miller, November 6 2015
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