Re: Types of conflict in cohousing -- did I miss any?
From: R Philip Dowds (
Date: Sat, 23 Jan 2016 04:50:27 -0800 (PST)
This is an important distinction.  Many “conflicts" are trivial and 
idiosyncratic: unique communication errors, speculation in a context of missing 
information, random personal preferences or phobias, and so on.  But when 
people are unable to agree on basic facts, or on a credible problem 
description, or on list of plausible alternative solutions — the underlying 
causes are often repressed and seemingly unmentionable anger, resentment, 
competition, or disappointment.  Debating the “facts” is utterly pointless when 
the underlying causes remain denied and undiscussable.

Philip Dowds
Cornerstone Village Cohousing
Cambridge, MA

> On Jan 22, 2016, at 12:45 PM, Mary Baker, Solid Communications <mary [at] 
>> wrote:
> Also, maybe I should clarify that this is a workbook about handling real 
> conflict—burning anger, repressed resentment, explosions, forms of adult 
> bullying, broken relationships. 

Results generated by Tiger Technologies Web hosting using MHonArc.