Re: What is “Open”
From: Jerry McIntire (
Date: Fri, 5 Feb 2016 08:20:27 -0800 (PST)
The latter would be simpler Philip.


On Fri, Feb 5, 2016 at 10:10 AM, R Philip Dowds <rpdowds [at]> 

> Some communications experts believe in redundant messaging through
> multiple media — but this may be overkill for cohousing communities.
> But your post does raise a fundamental, communitarian question:  Does the
> community have a duty to express itself via that mode most preferred by
> each member … simultaneously ensuring that no member is ever confronted by
> a medium disfavored?  Or … does each member have a duty to stay in touch
> with that medium of which the community has agreed is favored for the
> conduct of communal business?
> Thanks,
> Philip Dowds
> Cornerstone Village Cohousing
> Cambridge, MA
> > On Feb 5, 2016, at 10:21 AM, Jude Foster <foster.jude [at]> wrote:
> >
> > Sharon and all,
> > Thank you for writing this post (thank you for all your writing….)  Open
> communication is a challenging, shifting subject, and it has gotten more
> complicated rather than less, as the media/communication possibilities
> multiply, and as people’s lives are ever more complex as a result.
> >
> > I am just finishing a thorough survey of our community members to gather
> info on everyone’s communication preferences OUTSIDE of F2F and our shared,
> organized  e-bulletin board and server.
> > I took it on after several personal game-changing realizations - for
> instance: "oh, he’ll read it if I text, but not if I email.”
> >
> > For ordinary community business and connections, some people want to be
> texted, some prefer phone calls, some email.  Some use texts for family but
> don’t want it complicated by community, some would rather never speak on
> the phone, many but not most are still committed email users, a few still
> have land lines.   And so on.    Then it changes for day-of or more urgent
> communication:  what does each person use there, what will work best?   My
> inventory of preferences shows quite a range of differences among us, it’s
> been very interesting to explore.
> >
> > Even doctor’s offices and such are jumping on this bandwagon, aren’t
> they?  I had a dentist appointment recently, and I received several emails
> and texts to remind me - geesh!  I had to tell them to back off.
> >
> > It is not just generational, at least within our community, though that
> is certainly a big factor.  My own Millenial sons have now trained me to
> message them via Facebook or text rather than email.    Sharon refers to
> extroverts as still loving bulletin boards, which had never occurred to
> me.    Some older Boomers keep up with the latest, texting and Facetime and
> beyond, others choose not to.
> >
> > Anyway, back to “what is ‘open’” - I am about to report out to our
> community:  these people prefer texts, these prefer email, and so on.  And
> then good luck to us all to notice the preferences, to make it work, and to
> keep up with continuing change.
> >
> > Cheers from the computer,
> > Jude, Trillium Hollow, Portland Oregon
> >
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