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|From: Diana Leafe Christian (dianaic.org)|
|Date: Sat, 25 Jun 2016 06:54:40 -0700 (PDT)|
> Dear Joani, My hat goes off to you and my heart goes open for you, in the way you’re dealing with this. I so appreciate that you’re being straightforward and direct, and letting your many, many friends who appreciate you know what you do and don’t want. When I know that I’ll be dying soon I plan to do the same, and have a big celebration too, which hopefully I’ll attend as well. Then I’ll check myself into a hospice. My very elderly mother, Rosetta Neff, whom some of my cohousing friends have met, recently grew ill and it became worse. We went to live in a hospice — which was _wonderful_, and she passed away peacefully, not in pain, and surrounded by love and kindness, three weeks later. Then our whole community hosted a Celebration of Rosetta’s Life, which people loved. And I loved it, and I’m hoping my mom was there and hope she loved it. We played Glenn Miller Big Band music, her favorite music from when she was young. I appreciate and respect the choice to face death, deal with it well, and celebrate. (Once I read a metaphysical book with the line, “Death is perfectly safe.”) When you know the date in September of your Celebration, please let us know. Sending love and appreciation, Diana > I have very recently received a diagnosis of metastatic pancreatic > cancer. It is a very aggressive form of cancer with a poor prognosis, > and it is likely that I do not have a lot of time left.For that reason, > I intend to treat only my symptoms, not the disease itself, because I > want to enjoy myself and not feel sick during whatever time remains. > > People often don?t know how to respond to a cancer announcement, so let > me tell you what will work and not work for me. > > Please don?t say something like, ?Let me tell you abouta book you should > read/some herbs you should take/a meditation practice that will help > you.? In other words I prefer not to hear advice or suggestions at this > time.Instead, try something like, "That really sucks" or "I?m sad/sorry > you?re sick? and/or if you are close by, you might offer me a > hug.There?s no need to offer your help; I know that I will have it > should I ask for it, and I will ask if I need or want it. > > Watch for details of a Celebration of My Life (which I plan to attend) > probably in September. >
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