|Re: WaPo article about aging without kids||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Virgil Huston (virgil.huston1955gmail.com)|
|Date: Sat, 27 Aug 2016 11:17:11 -0700 (PDT)|
Liz, I agree with everything you said. I would like to see communities that are set up for end-of-life/long term health issue matters, while also having all the options for active adults and families. This would probably have to be set up by a non-profit or for-profit enterprise and could even possibly provide jobs for residents and/or income. I believe Europe has some things like this already. Like a personal care home in the community, etc. I actually see this as a huge opportunity for developers and investors on the corporate level. Virgil On Fri, Aug 26, 2016 at 10:01 AM, Elizabeth Magill <pastorlizm [at] gmail.com> wrote: > > Watching my in-laws refuse to be helped such that they are now stuck far away > and not healthy enough to be moved….(and my parents are younger but refusing > also to be helped.) > > and watching a coho neighbor refuse to be helped > > and then this message which I think says “I’d rather be homeless than have my > kids help me” > > suggests that part of the problem is that I need to learn how to let other > people do the help that they *can* do. > > At the same time, if I can’t pay my mortgage, or I can’t pay my condo fee, > and I haven’t made arrangements around that, I don’t see how the rest of the > coho community is supposed to rescue me? Should they use their own retirement > savings? > > If its just me that did that, I can’t imagine they’d kick me out for > non-condo fee payment (they would put a lien on the house get that money back > when the house is sold). > But the bank will mostly certainly foreclose on me—which is not the > communities fault, right? > > But if 10 of us failed to pay our condo fee, the community couldn’t survive > without doing something to get paid. > > As a 55 year old adult without kids, my reaction to the WP article is that > I’m not sure what my friends can do if I become like my in-laws or parents. > Both that non-family can’t make medical decisions for me, can’t push me out > of my home, and if I won’t listen, they can’t make me accept the help I may > need. > > -Liz > (The Rev.) Elizabeth M. Magill > www.ecclesiaministriesmission.org > www.mosaic-commons.org > 508-450-0431 > > > > >> On Aug 25, 2016, at 10:44 PM, Virgil Huston <virgil.huston1955 [at] >> gmail.com> wrote: >> > >> [snip]... I will be homeless (with my dog, that is essential). I completely >> agree >> that we of a certain age need to plan for our old age and cohousing >> with like minded people is attractive. However, I am not sure it is >> the answer. I have seen stuff about old folks being basically kicked >> out of cohousing because they can't contribute as they are expected >> to. Or they can't afford the condo fees anymore. We need cohousing >> that works from fully able adult to hospice. …. > >>> Aging Solo: Okay, I don’t have a child to help me, but I do have a plan >>> >>> https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/aging-solo-okay-i-dont-have-a-child-to-help-me-but-i-do-have-a-plan/2016/08/15/2af75e9a-49c7-11e6-90a8-fb84201e0645_story.html >>> > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > >
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