Re: Use of science/facts in decision making
From: Elizabeth Magill (
Date: Sat, 31 Dec 2016 11:21:12 -0800 (PST)
The thing I like about this is it doesn’t suggest “my facts trump your 
feelings” but rather that there is data here, data in the form of facts, data 
in the form of feelings, data in the form of values.

(The Rev.) Elizabeth M. Magill

> On Dec 31, 2016, at 2:17 PM, Lynn Nadeau / Maraiah <welcome [at]> 
> wrote:
> One issue is sorting out what ARE facts? Research x may show video games 
> fostering antisocial behavior; George points out that he and his brothers 
> played all sorts of war games and turned out to be fine gentle adults. Often 
> there are "facts" which conflict. 
> In a workshop on Compassionate Listening, I learned a strategy I have found 
> useful. This is to look at a conflict situation and parse out "facts", 
> "feelings" and "values". In the workshop we'd listen to someone telling the 
> story of their conflict ("I have this horrible neighbor who does this and 
> that and they deserve so and so....". One person listened for what they heard 
> as facts (On August 12, neighbor said and did this.), feelings (You felt 
> angry when you saw...), and values (It's important to you to....).  These 
> observers then reported back to the speaker for verification. Later I used 
> that approach, solo, as minute-taking secretary trying to describe a fraught 
> discussion that had taken place, and found it clarifying. 
> There still may be conflicts -- different values for example, like using that 
> field for ball games vs keeping the grass from being eroded -- but it helps 
> at times to boil it down to what is happening in these three arenas. 
> Maraiah Lynn Nadeau
> RoseWind Cohousing, long-built in Port Townsend WA
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