Re: talking about money, values, and power [WAS How big is too big (for a house)]
From: Mary Baker, Solid Communications (
Date: Sat, 25 Mar 2017 12:10:14 -0700 (PDT)
Sonora Cohousing in Tucson has a range of sizes, including a four-bedroom 
model. But you can’t really tell from street level because many of the homes 
have a large basement level (keeps house cool in Arizona heat) and even the 
larger homes have a narrow footprint. 

The last owners had some trouble moving the house on the market though, even 
though there is considerable demand for cohousing. It’s a big commitment for a 
family of 4-6 to make—a bigger step, I would imagine, than it would be for an 
individual or couple. Nevertheless, it’s really nice to have big families in a 
cohousing community.


From: Eris Weaver 
Sent: Friday, March 24, 2017 8:47 AM
To: cohousing-l [at] 
Subject: [C-L]_ talking about money, values, and power [WAS How big is too big 
(for a house)]

> Should we allow for such a large house in our planning of the community?
> Some members are concerned that such a large home would be out of place
within the
> community, or would foster jealousy, or would be very hard to sell if/when
> household needs to relocate. Other members are of a "live and let live"
attitude and feel
> that people should be able to build what they want. 

This discussion really isn't about optimum home size, but about all the
emotions and values that come up around economic differences, power (within
the community and in the outside world), equity, fairness, etc. I'll be
leading a pre-conference session on the topic "Let's Talk About Money" at
the cohousing conference that might be useful to forming groups wrestling
with these questions. 

I won't be giving you answers about what you should DO about this issues, or
showing you how to do pro formas or reserve studies, or how to calculate
dues, etc. What I will be sharing are techniques for having these
discussions in a useful way. Issues about finances are not about numbers,
they are about values!

More info here:
If you can't come to the conference, you can buy my book here:

Eris Weaver, FrogSong Cohousing (Cotati, CA)

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