Re: Unseen Bullying Epidemic in Senior Communities - with hot link
From: Ann Zabaldo (
Date: Wed, 16 May 2018 06:39:42 -0700 (PDT)
Hello Alan and all —

Why do you find this surprising?  Bullies age and get old just like everyone 
else.  We have a 72 yr old one in the White House.

What is maybe a surprise is our expectation that people will become sweeter and 
gentler as they age.  Maybe because we think aging bullies and aggressive 
people will be softened by the knowledge that they are moving into another 
dimension in their lives?  I think it’s the opposite.  My personal experience 
is that as people age they become even more of the person they are.  A gentle 
person is a gentle person when they pass the magic 65+.  And a cantankerous 
person gets crankier.  (Of course, there ARE exceptions to both scenarios e.g. 
Ebenezer Scrooge comes to mind …)

Crimes and violence and abuse against the elderly is a major problem in the 
U.S.  The Federal gov’t and local municipalities devote resources to combat 
this.  Maybe one of the benefits of living in a cohousing community as we age 
is that the community can exercise intervention among members to keep this kind 
of behavior at bay.

Best --

Ann Zabaldo
Takoma Village Cohousing
Washington, DC
Principal, Cohousing Collaborative, LLC
Falls Church, VA

As long as you have two or fewer … your ducks are always in a row.  The Covert 

> On May 16, 2018, at 9:11 AM, Alan O'Hashi via Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] 
>> wrote:
> Cohousers - Let's try this again. I was in the common house today and one of 
> my neighbors pointed out an interesting article on the bulletin board. It was 
> an AP story about the unseen bullying epidemic in senior communities. I've 
> been trying to claw my way to the bottom, and there are old people still 
> trying to claw their ways to the top at the expense of their neighbors.
> I was surprised to read that one out of five seniors are the targets of 
> bullying. Having just received my Silver Sneakers card, I'll think about my 
> five closest neighbors and if they seem okay, it must be me!
> Here's the link ...
> Thx
> Alan O.
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