|Re: Question about Consent Governance||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Kathryn McCamant (kmccamantcohousing-solutions.com)|
|Date: Tue, 17 Jul 2018 15:07:24 -0700 (PDT)|
I totally agree with what Karen says about consensus/consent is much easier when the relationships and trusts are strong within the group. The difficultly for many cohousing groups is that we are making big decisions early in a development process when you just can't know everyone very well, and the community is still solidifying. Thus, helpful to have clear process and guidelines in writing. I have worked with a wide variety of consensus/consent processes and have no strong opinions about which is best.....so long as there is some sort of fallback voting, consensus minus 1 (or 2 or ?) so that a community does not get stuck in dictator of the minority. I thought one of the most interesting comments from previous discussions on this topic was people mentioning that having that back up actually helped them work out a consensus....so that rather than taking away the power of building consensus, it supported their efforts to do so. I believe the original question on this topic had to do with committees having consensus. Generally, if the committee/team/circle doesn't agree, I would take the issue and both perspectives/proposals to the larger group to weigh in on. Katie -- Kathryn McCamant, President CoHousing Solutions Nevada City Cohousing Nevada City, CA 95959 T.530.478.1970 C.916.798.4755 www.cohousing-solutions.com On 7/17/18, 1:54 PM, "Cohousing-L on behalf of Karen Gimnig" <cohousing-l-bounces+kmccamant=cohousing-solutions.com [at] cohousing.org on behalf of gimnig [at] gmail.com> wrote: For me, the key point in response to this question is the limit on how much can be done with rules. The question is more or less about abrule. How many people must object for the objection to stand? Being clear about how decisions are made is vital. Rules and processes, when well written and understood, can bring that clarity. What they can't do is create a community or consensus mindset. Consensus or consent decision-making is about culture, communication and relationship. At the end of the day, if any person wants to use rules as the power to stop (or start) something, it is a sign that the culture of consensus needs some help. Good consensus or consent is driven by foundational beliefs and values. It requires a sense of safety, the experience of being fully heard and understood, trust in the community as a whole. It's hard for us Americans to live that. We need help reminding ourselves from time to time. Also, new members will need orientation on this and help settling in. In the meantime, yes there are fabulous structures that can help us with that. Sociocracy, Non-Violent Communication, Imago Relationships, many other bits and pieces that have been mentioned. Just know that those structures alone will not be enough if people treat them like rules for claiming power rather than as tools for caring for one another in community. In Community, Karen Gimnig Professional Facilitator 678-705-9007 www. imago4coho.net _________________________________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: http://l.cohousing.org/info
- Re: Question about Consent Governance, (continued)
- Re: Question about Consent Governance Kathryn McCamant, July 17 2018
- Re: Question about Consent Governance Philip Dowds, July 17 2018
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