|Re: Parent and Participation||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Muriel Kranowski (murielkvt.edu)|
|Date: Thu, 24 Jan 2019 11:08:22 -0800 (PST)|
As I've written before, we're much more laissez-faire at Shadowlake Village. We have a general expectation that *households* will provide 6-8 hours per month of workshare effort but it isn't monitored or enforced. People come to plenary meetings if they want to; some are well attended because there's an issue widely seen as important on the agenda, and some are sparsely attended. We also have a budget for child care for plenary meetings and a Childcare Coordinator who makes sure there is a child minder (often one of our teens) or does it himself if he can't find a paid person. Households with very young children are usually represented by one parent while the other stays home with the child/children. Muriel at Shadowlake Village On Thu, Jan 24, 2019 at 12:59 PM Frost, Morgan <frostm [at] seattleu.edu> wrote: > Hi all, > > As a new parent (babe is 14 months old) I have not been able to meet > participation requirements since having a baby, and I would like to explore > how other communities handle this. I love my community and I hate feeling > like I'm not meeting expectations. I have heard other communities expect > "household" participation rather than individual-so I'm curious about this. > I'd like to gather more information from other communities who have worked > through this so I can have ideas for solutions to bring to my own > community. We have more babies on the way so I would love to pave the way > for improving expectation management and helping parents have less guilt > and feel more valued as community members even when they cannot participate > at the level they did pre-children. We may be able to remedy some of this > with structural changes, or perhaps we need to investigate deeper cultural > change work as well. > > More Context: Here at Vashon Cohousing near Seattle, WA, our participation > agreement defines that all adult residents attend all business meetings (2 > hours each, 16x/year), all adult residents serve on at least one committee > (meets monthly), and everyone age 9+ attends all work parties (10-12 per > year, 3 hours each). > > There is no childcare provided for any of our meetings, and babies > attending business and committee meetings is generally frowned upon (this > isn't written but it's clear from body language and even verbal statements > that the children are too distracting). If I were to setup care for all > business meetings and all work parties and all committee meetings expected > of me in a year on my own I would be paying at least $1,500 in care costs > plus the EXTREME mental load of booking caregivers and rearranging > schedules when they can't make it. Not to mention all of the time away from > my little one while participating in a community that says we value > children. Even with childcare setup, a nanny cannot breastfeed my son and > neither can my husband, so it usually falls on me to miss all or part of > meetings to care for my baby. > > > 1. How do you handle participation generally-individual basis or > household basis? > 2. What is expected of parents in your community regarding > participation? > * Children at meetings > * Arranging childcare individually or through a committee? > * First year baby is born are there different, lower expectations > defined for participation? > * Is anything in particular talked about or defined for nursing > mothers in particular? > * Do you have any specific policies or agreements for parent > members? > * Etc. > > Thank you! > Morgan > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://L.cohousing.org/info > > > >
Parent and Participation Frost, Morgan, January 24 2019
- Re: Parent and Participation Muriel Kranowski, January 24 2019
- Parent and Participation Karen Gimnig, January 25 2019
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