Re: Posting Request-Dealing with Sensitive Issues
From: Elizabeth Magill (
Date: Mon, 30 Sep 2019 07:00:08 -0700 (PDT)
As a member of the community support team I would ask people who want to
discuss such a thing in the general meeting what it is they are hoping to

Often folk want a policy or procedure or agreement to change one person's
behavior. That rarely works. If it is one person who needs to change then
people who are bothered by the one person need to tell them so.

Our community support team is willing to "come along" for such a

Note, however, that they may not change even if you ask them to. Then,
unless you have a strategy to kick folk out of the homes they own, each
individual must figure out how to change their own behavior to restore
their sense of balance.

In any case I do not find that making individual problems into community
problems improves the outcomes.

Liz magill
Mosaic commons cohousing berlin MA.
Community support team coach.

On Mon, Sep 30, 2019 at 8:25 AM Robin <robin7500 [at]> wrote:

> How do some communities deal with emotionally laden issues?
> We already decide things by consensus, but this is different. Before we
> have a proposal at hand, how do communities deal with a topic that can be
> especially sensitive and about one household, but affecting the community.
> Examples could be a difficult, agressive child or an adult child who has
> moved back with parents but has questionable behavior and friends visiting.
> Do some co-housing communities have a process in place for dealing with
> such topics.
> *Robin7500 [at] <Robin7500 [at]>*
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(The Rev. Dr.) Elizabeth Mae Magill
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Minister to the Affiliates, Ecclesia Ministries

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