Re: bullying behavior
From: Elizabeth Magill (
Date: Fri, 12 Jun 2020 07:16:34 -0700 (PDT)
We've had two useful things, both of which lasted only for a short
time, but were helpful at the time.
1) A kids council where the kids got together and spoke about what was
happening in the community.

2) A fifth-grade teacher who did not have kids at the time, and who
was loved/liked by most or all of the kids, started "kid's community
support". Any kid could bring an issue and she got the two kids
together for a discussion.

As with *all* of community support at mosaic, both required that the
person (of any age) with the complaint be willing to speak to the
person who had done the harm. What was provided was help to do that.

-Liz Magill
Mosaic Commons Cohousing, Berlin MA

On Fri, Jun 12, 2020 at 10:02 AM Muriel Kranowski <murielk [at]> wrote:
> Carol, does your community have a statement of values and/or principles
> that includes treating others with respect or some such formulation?
> Because if you do, I think that might be a way to talk about how to teach
> those same values to children from their earliest years.
> On Fri, Jun 12, 2020 at 8:40 AM CJ Q <homeschoolvideo [at]> wrote:
> > Hi all,
> > I will check the archives but I think I've looked over all the kid ones as
> > much as possible.  Please give us some advice on how to curb bullying
> > behavior of small children.
> >
> > We have many kids but 90% are preschool and there is a lot of unkind words,
> > ganging up, excluding, and coercion.  And, like many communities, there are
> > differences of parenting style.  Some parents discuss right away with the
> > child, bring them inside, and/or have some sort of consequence. Others, are
> > into the idea of complete freedom for their children and are struggling
> > with how to change their children's behavior or think fighting and hitting
> > is part of growing up and that kids should never get any directions.  I'm
> > not against giving kids freedom and helped run a Sudberry Valley/Democratic
> > School, however, we did have to ask some children to leave there if they
> > were too violent and here we can't (or can we ?)  I have also seen in
> > Democratic Schools adults who don't understand the whole concept and never
> > set any limits so parents took their kids out since it didn't feel safe and
> > a lot of unsafe stuff did happen.
> > I appreciate your help since some of our children are hurting and all the
> > parents are having a hard time getting along right now (and are hurt too)
> >
> > Thanks in advance,
> > Carol
> > Emerson Commons (still new since Feb 2019)
> > you can email me too at homeschoolvideo [at]
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(The Rev. Dr.) Elizabeth Mae Magill
Pastor, Ashburnham Community Church
Minister to the Affiliates, Ecclesia Ministries

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