Re: Conflict, harassment and violence
From: Melanie G (gomelaniegogmail.com)
Date: Mon, 3 Aug 2020 20:03:22 -0700 (PDT)
I would really appreciate if we kept this topic here on list.  It's super
important to me.  I imagine this could happen anywhere.  But I am
especially interested in knowing things that have been tried and did or did
not "work".

I don't believe it's realistic to look for agreement, and I equally don't
believe "agree to disagree" is conducive to living together, trust and
making decisions together.

I think the best we can hope for is mutual understanding, or at least
recognition of needs, common humanity.

looking forward to hearing folk's experiences.  thank you for the question
Sky.

melanie in search of community

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> Hey coho world,
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> The cohousing community I'm living in is looking for examples of policies
> or procedures for dealing with interactions between neighbors where there
> is harassment and/or violence, and where mediation has not worked or is not
> an option. Does anyone have anything written up that you can share?
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> thx.
> Sky
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> Date: Sat, 1 Aug 2020 18:48:03 -0400
> From: Elizabeth Magill <pastorlizm [at] gmail.com>
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> Our policy says that once mediation is tried, if there is not a
> conclusion than they can agree to disagree. So that won't be helpful
> here.
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> If there is violence or the threat of violence to me my own *personal*
> policy is to call the police. I'm trying to imagine a context where
> that would not be the next step? Certainly if you are discussing abuse
> sometimes it is safest to move away to a secret place.
>
> Maybe I am misunderstanding?
>
> Liz
> Mosaic Commons Cohousing in Berlin, MA
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> On Sat, Aug 1, 2020 at 1:00 PM Sky Blue <peacewithinchaos [at] gmail.com>
> wrote:
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> > Hey coho world,
> >
> > The cohousing community I'm living in is looking for examples of policies
> > or procedures for dealing with interactions between neighbors where there
> > is harassment and/or violence, and where mediation has not worked or is
> not
> > an option. Does anyone have anything written up that you can share?
> >
> > thx.
> > Sky
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> -Liz
> (The Rev. Dr.) Elizabeth Mae Magill
> Pastor, Ashburnham Community Church
> Minister to the Affiliates, Ecclesia Ministries
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> Date: Sat, 1 Aug 2020 22:45:53 -0400
> From: CJ Q <homeschoolvideo [at] gmail.com>
> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> Subject: [C-L]_ Division question
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> Hi all!
>
> I?ve heard about conflict in Cohousing especially in newer groups where
> people tend to take sides and the whole place gets divided up m. I?m
> wondering what makes those type of things happen and how do communities
> heal from it. you can email me off list if you prefer.
>
> Thanks,
> Carol
> homeschoolvideo [at] gmail.com
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