|Re: Contentious issues?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: fergyb2 (fergyb2yahoo.com)|
|Date: Tue, 15 Sep 2020 10:11:15 -0700 (PDT)|
I agree with Muriel, ignoring never works, what does is careful and respectful talking it through. Here at Swans Market we are a small urban cohousing Community 20 years after move in and we have never had to use the emergency voting option that was put into our bylaws so nervous banks would lend to us. That’s not to say we haven’t had our share of contentious issues. When we get into trouble it’s usually through impatience and rushing to a decision in spite of some folks reservations. When you do that, resentments build and it becomes harder to reach consensus on the next, unrelated issue that comes up. We are so used to rushing to a decision in our culture it’s hard for people to get used to the amount of time and effort required to reach a good decision that everyone understands and can live with. There is no substitute for talking it through and really listening to each other. We also have brought in outside Cohousing professionals to facilitate meetings on occasion when we have gotten stuck. A useful strategy I recommend. And facilitator training on consensus decision making BEFORE move in so you all start with some basic skills. Good luck to you in this adventure we call cohousing. Bonnie Fergusson Swans Market Cohousing Oakland, CA land of the many smokes currently Sent from my iPad > > > >
Contentious issues? Al, September 14 2020
- Re: Contentious issues? R Philip Dowds, September 15 2020
- Re: Contentious issues? Muriel Kranowski, September 15 2020
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