Re: Hiring outside facilitators/professionals
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Date: Sat, 17 Oct 2020 06:16:34 -0700 (PDT)
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We have used outside facilitators twice and have regretted it.
In one case, the person had experience in facilitating consensus for
non-profit organizations but not for cohousing, and that proved to be a
crucial difference.  You can't ask someone to simply leave - they own a

In the second case, the facilitator tried to do more emotional work so it
became more like group therapy, which was a real turn-off to some.
(Although others liked it.) Some people, frankly, were too emotionally
fragile or volatile to be doing that sort of thing in a setting with 40

So I would advise your own facilitators to get additional training and do
something along the lines of what Liz wrote.
We have had a couple of conflicts that we have put on hold for years.

Anna Amato
Takoma Village
Wash., DC

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