Re: Question about accepted norms in the common space
From: Abe Ross (
Date: Thu, 22 Oct 2020 13:48:26 -0700 (PDT)
Thanks to both Elizabeth and Grace for you replies.  It is clear that in both cases the community makes an effort (or is willing to incur costs) to accommodate both allergies and preferences.  However, I assume that a greater effort would be made or a willingness to incur higher costs would be made for a person with for instance, celiac disease, than a person who, "feels better now that they have stopped eating gluten".  Are these made implicitly or explicitly?


OK to colour outside the lines occasionally but when you do it consistently you 
are just sloppy.

On 10/22/2020 3:27 PM, Grace Kim wrote:
re: How do you distinguish between allergies (needs) and preferences (wants)?

Abe -
You don't. If you want to be inclusive and have everyone feel heard/equally 
valued, you should honor all allergies and preferences.

The way that shows up in our community is that we have a sign posted in the CH 
for the medically critical allergies (i.e., signs at all entry doors saying 
that the CH is nut free and stone-fruit free - with a list of what is 
considered a stone fruit).
And in our meals program, we accommodate all dietary preferences (gluten free, 
vegan) for every meal. And in the case of some very specific restrictions 
(artichokes, raw carrots, beans), we just alert the folks with those 
intolerance/allergies which dishes have those and they avoid them.

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