Re: Question about accepted norms in the common space
From: Elizabeth Magill (
Date: Thu, 22 Oct 2020 13:57:55 -0700 (PDT)
It's just not true.

The one person I know has celiac chooses to only eat meals that are made by
people he trusts to maintain perfection in the gluten free. The others, how
would I know if they have celiac or gluten intolerance?

For heaven's sake, I'm sitting here in pain from eating *my own frikken
applesauce* and discovering that my sorbitol intolerance is making me
miserable. I am *not* sharing this with the community, because who wants to
know about my bowel movements???

But I may ask for sorbitol to be added to the list of foods that cooks mark
as present or not in a meal.

Here is how I ask guests about meals--"Let us know any allergies you have
and whether you eat gluten or not, dairy or not, meat or not."

Most of our meals have gluten free, dairy free, and meat free options. We
do this because it is relevant to a large segment of the community and
because we care about each other. We do not suppose to know anything
about their medical state.

Also we have about three people with anaphylactic food allergies. We have
separate rule about what can be stored and chopped in the common house, but
do not have a restriction against cooking with those foods.

FYI Gather has an "allergen checklist" so when the cook creates the meal we
can identify which allergens are present.


On Thu, Oct 22, 2020 at 4:48 PM Abe Ross <cohoyote [at]> wrote:

> Thanks to both Elizabeth and Grace for you replies.  It is clear that in
> both cases the community makes an effort (or is willing to incur costs)
> to accommodate both allergies and preferences.  However, I assume that a
> greater effort would be made or a willingness to incur higher costs
> would be made for a person with for instance, celiac disease, than a
> person who, "feels better now that they have stopped eating gluten".
> Are these made implicitly or explicitly?
> Abe
> OK to colour outside the lines occasionally but when you do it
> consistently you are just sloppy.
> On 10/22/2020 3:27 PM, Grace Kim wrote:
> > re: How do you distinguish between allergies (needs) and preferences
> (wants)?
> >
> >
> > Abe -
> > You don't. If you want to be inclusive and have everyone feel
> heard/equally valued, you should honor all allergies and preferences.
> >
> > The way that shows up in our community is that we have a sign posted in
> the CH for the medically critical allergies (i.e., signs at all entry doors
> saying that the CH is nut free and stone-fruit free - with a list of what
> is considered a stone fruit).
> > And in our meals program, we accommodate all dietary preferences (gluten
> free, vegan) for every meal. And in the case of some very specific
> restrictions (artichokes, raw carrots, beans), we just alert the folks with
> those intolerance/allergies which dishes have those and they avoid them.
> >
> >
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(The Rev. Dr.) Elizabeth Mae Magill
Pastor, Ashburnham Community Church
Minister to the Affiliates, Ecclesia Ministries

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