|Re: strong emotions||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Tom Smyth (tomtomsmyth.ca)|
|Date: Mon, 4 Jan 2021 19:09:21 -0800 (PST)|
My facilitation trainers taught me not to fear or disapprove of strong emotions. Rather to match them and engage with them and figure out what is behind them and what's at stake. Usually if someone is emoting like that it means they want to be heard in my experience. I think that's the key ultimately. Making sure people feel heard, whether they're yelling their feelings or almost whispering them (some people do the latter but their feelings are just as strong). And then sometimes you have to make sure the person at whom the strong feelings were directed is also heard! And also be careful of power imbalances if they exist, that's a whole other dimension. But certainly judging folks for having strong feelings is not the way to go! On Mon, Jan 4, 2021 at 9:45 PM CJ Q <homeschoolvideo [at] gmail.com> wrote: > I have a question for the list serv. I see the expression strong emotions a > lot. It is confusing me. I come from a loud, Sicilian background and our > family is mixed with Mexican and I'm used to being around loud, expressive > people. So, this seems to say - keep your feelings stuffed. Why not just > say people are hurt? Or offended? Or disagree and work with that? Any > explanation to clear up my confusion or misunderstanding is appreciated. > > Thanks, > Carol > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://L.cohousing.org/info > > > > -- Tom Smyth Worker-Owner, Sassafras Tech Collective Specializing in innovative, usable tech for social change sassafras.coop · @sassafrastech Pronouns: he/him
strong emotions CJ Q, January 4 2021
- Re: strong emotions Tom Smyth, January 4 2021
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