Re: Friends, affiliates, or associate members
From: Alan O'Hashi (
Date: Fri, 13 Aug 2021 06:06:25 -0700 (PDT)
diana - it's a matter of equity. when a two-member household with a full member 
and an associate member pays, say, $200+25=$225 a month to the hoa and another 
two-person household that is comprised of two full members pays $200+$200=$400, 
I can tell you from my community experience, equity matters.


alan o

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    On Friday, August 13, 2021, 06:23:58 AM MDT, Diana Carroll <dianaecarroll 
[at]> wrote:  
 I don’t have specific answers to your “gray area” questions but I wonder why 
it matters. 
So a couple was in a trial period. I doubt they were trying to sneak around to 
pay a lower fee. Or someone eats common meals more often than one thinks a 
visitor would. 
If you community is not in dire straits financially, is it worth trying to nail 
these occasional things down? I think all this works only by assuming some 
amount of good intent and not stressing too much when someone’s good-intent 
interpretation conflicts with someone else’s good-intent interpretation, as 
long as no one is harming anyone. 
In Mosaic Commons, I was on the “affiliate policy” team. We spent a lot of time 
talking about these various permutations and eventually decided none of them 
mattered. What REALLY mattered was that the affiliate affirmatively wanted to 
be part of the community, and the community (or reasonable subset of) 
affirmatively wanted them here. Everything else is noise. 
On Fri, Aug 13, 2021 at 7:46 AM Alan O'Hashi via Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at]> wrote:


 We have an Associate Member category. Here is a cautionary question, when does 
an Associate Member become an actual member? We had two instances where 
Associate Membership was used as an interpersonal relationship tool for two 
couples who were trying to figure out if they were a couple. So they used the 
Associate Membership to test drive each other. It turned out that they actually 
lived together during the test drive period, but one person was paying the 
lesser Associate Membership fee. Another example, what if a member has a 
significant other who stays over for say, three nights a week and participates 
in meals, etc. Is that person an Associate Member or just an occasional guest 
in the community?


Alan O

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