Re: Diversity, what diversity? | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Daniel Nachbar (nachbarworld.std.com) | |
Date: Wed, 3 Jul 1996 11:32:30 -0500 |
It is a serious mistake to confuse the attitudes of people who say that they want to live in "cohousing" with the attitudes of people who actually end up living in such communities. It took me 4 years and 3 groups before I eventually moved into cohousing 2 years ago. During that time, I met quite a few "wacks". They are actually quite common in the early stages of groups. But the rigors of the development process, and the realities of working with other people almost always weed out wacky attitudes (either the attitude leaves, or the people with them leave). To the degree that they do remain, most wacky suggestions are politely ignored in favor of dealing with the holder's more sensible side. The key is to obtain a critical mass of common sense within one's group. The "weeding" process follows quite naturally. I considered myself to be quite a tolerant fellow before cohousing. Boy, was I in for a shock. Repeatedly, during my "early days", I found myself stomping around after meetings mumbling "What is WRONG with these people?" I came to the point where I could either give up on cohousing, or learn to live with others' "madness." I now consider having my own tolerance levels increased to be one of the primary, if unexpected, returns on my investment. Dan Nachbar Pioneer Valley CoHousing Amherst, MA
- RE: Diversity, what diversity?, (continued)
- RE: Diversity, what diversity? Rob Sandelin (Exchange), July 2 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? Tony G. Rocco, July 2 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? Jerry Callen, July 2 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? Bob's Cohousing Mailbox, July 3 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? Daniel Nachbar, July 3 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? Loren Davidson, July 3 1996
- Diversity, what diversity? Evan A.C. Hunt, July 3 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? MelaSilva, July 5 1996
- Re: Diversity, what diversity? Tony G. Rocco, July 5 1996
Results generated by Tiger Technologies Web hosting using MHonArc.