|Re: Values of Cohousers||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Fred H. Olson (fholsoncohousing.org)|
|Date: Thu, 23 Sep 1999 09:47:32 -0600 (MDT)|
Diane Cano, Ganas DHCano [at] aol.com is the author of the message below but due to a problem it was posted by the Fred the list manager: fholson@cohousing org To get off cohousing-L, send email with UNSUBSCRIBE COHOUSING-L in the msg body to: listproc [at] cohousing.org Questions? email Fred - addr above -------------------- FORWARDED MESSAGE FOLLOWS -------------------- In a message dated 9/22/99 1:07:40 PM Eastern Daylight Time, victoria [at] trillium-hollow.org writes: << when I was young I was part of an extremely radical community where despite non-middle class values plenty of power was wielded in unpleasant ways. There are reasons that people have evolved values towards indendence from communities and families besides being greedy and competitive. >> Yes, indeed there are. I live in an intentional community where there are various levels of participation, ranging from income- and property-sharing to almost boarder status. Income-sharers have a pool of vehicles which they use; non-income sharers can't drive the vehicles but get use from them in the form of rides, a s well as from the fact that all the shopping and transport that a community depends on take place through that vehicle pool. There is also a history of some car-sharing among others here and in fact I am in a car-sharing arrangement with another resident, one which works very well. I value the opportunity to live in community and to participate in arrangements like the one I have with my car-partner. However, I also know that *for me* part of the reason that my life in community works so well is that I work outside the community -- and so am not dependent on it for income or for all my human connections. To say that this makes me economically (or otherwise) independent of it would be an exaggeration, since its *support* (as an inexpensive way to live comfortably and safely with interesting and pleasant people) is part of why I can make a satisfactory living working part-time as an organizational consultant. In fact, I think the single most important thing about the community I live in is its ability to create an alternative socio-economic model in which different levels of participation are available and which has *succeeded* for twenty years! Everybody should have such an option! So in a way I am partially economically dependent on my community. But I need and treasure the level of independence which I maintain, even though I have no special experiences to make me counter-dependent other than our broadly shared culture and history. And I believe there are many people whose ability to live happily in community (or anyplace else) depends on being able to maintain a certain level of mental, economic and social autonomy. Yes, valuing individuality and autonomy is a middle-class trait. And like most people who participated in the changes which took place in the 60's, it took me a long time to realize that not everything we can label as middle-class is without value! Community and individual autonomy exist along a spectrum. It's wonderful that today there is such a variety of choices along that spectrum, including cohousing and all the other kinds of intentional community. It is especially wonderful, from my perspective, that I can live in a community that offers its residents flexibility along a spectrum from much more 'one-ness' than would be comfortable for me to at least a couple of residents who are never seen at shared meals or community events. Diane Cano Ganas
Values of Cohousers Victoria, September 22 1999
- Re: Values of Cohousers Fred H. Olson, September 23 1999
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