Re: Using Professionals to Help Define Decision-Making Processes | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: pattymara (pattymarajuno.com) | |
Date: Mon, 4 Feb 2002 08:44:01 -0700 (MST) |
On Sun, 3 Feb 2002 12:18:23 -0700 (MST) Maggi Rohde <maggi [at] intranet.org> writes: > I think life would be so much easier if we were taught group > facilitation > and conflict resolution as teenagers. =) > > -Maggi Dear List, Because my daughter Lauren was 10 when we first started attending meetings with the Tierra Nueva core group, and age 18 when we finally moved into our cohousing home (Tierra Nueva, central CA coast), she was steeped in group facilitation information, as well as conflict resolution. In addition, she was listened to, respected by the group and had a "thumb" (voting here uses a thumb up for approval, thumb sideways for "I have a question or concern", thumb down for block). Now a senior in college, Lauren has made a huge impact on her college community, and shared her facilitation and conflict resolution skills with the students, faculty and staff with whom she interacts in her many activities. She is currently writing the orientation handbook for all incoming students, graduating in June with a degree in psychology and applying to grad schools to get her MSW. Okay okay, I'm bragging, but my point is: in the long term, we *are* teaching group facilitation and conflict resolution to our children, just by being in the river of community life. They are immersed in it, in a way that we haven't been, but are learning as we go. This is the deep blessing of building community: our children and the skills they absorb and take into the world. The ripple effect. We were trained in consensus and group life by our process mentors Kay and Floyd Tift who learned from their seven years of living in the Findhorn Community. They attended our business meetings once a month for over five years, "charging" us $100 a month. They requested we place their fee in a Process Fund to be used for retreat expenses, child care and anything qualifying as promoting expertise or group interaction, including PLAYing together. The year before move-in, they decided to buy a home here. We are gifted with their presence every day now. life is good, Patty Mara Gourley Tierra Nueva, central CA coast Where we still have our bumps in the road, especially in dealing with "colorful" personalities in the group. mmmm _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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