Re: Anti-Social Americans | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Fred H Olson WB0YQM (fholsonmaroon.tc.umn.edu) | |
Date: Fri, 4 Aug 95 10:58:01 CST |
BARB [at] LEXIS-NEXIS.COM S: BARBARA.BRUNS [at] LEXIS-NEXIS.COM Barbara Bruns is the author of the message below but due to a listserv problem it was posted by the COHOUSING-L sysop (Fred). **************** FORWARDED MESSAGE FOLLOWS ********************* Speaking from only my experience, it is the structure of our lives, not the structure of our neighborhoods, that makes us anti-social. For example: I have some wonderful next-door neighbors. If I slip and mention to Mona that my lawn-mower isn't working, she will call out to her husband Rick to come fix it, and they will "steal" it right out from under my nose before I can protest sufficiently (actually, there IS no sufficient protest - they would do it no matter what). A few days later, it's back, handle re-soldered, blade sharpened, and probably cleaner than when it left. These same people planned to move to Tennessee when their high-school aged kids got to college. Well, the kids are in college, but in the meantime the woman next door to them became widowed, and needs some emotional support, plus maybe someone to fix things like lawn mowers. So Rick and Mona are staying right where they are "as long as Doris is here." On Friday nights, Mona, Rick, and Doris grill out together. They've "reinvented community" between our three houses, but they don't know there's a label for it. So what's my point? Well, I drive 25 miles each way to work; I'm in school two nights a week to finish my bachelor's degree. I have a house and a rather large yard to maintain. Do I need a house for just me and 1 still-at-home child? No. Do I need a quarter-acre + of grass? No. Do I need a job 25 miles away? Well, yes; to pay for the other stuff. I bought into "the American Dream" and right now it owns me. So when I come home in the evening and Mona is out walking the dog, or I'm dragging back in from doing Saturday errands and Rick is working in the yard, do I stop and chat? Sometimes. But most times, I hit the garage door opener and slide into the garage with a wave, because I'm already 'way behind in my chores, or I've got a paper to finish, and Mona can really be a talker ... Am I anti-social? I don't think so. I'd love to sit on the stoop and drink a beer, and when I DO spend 45 minutes in the front yard talking with Mona, I always come away thinking what a great person she is. I'm looking for community, and it's right next door, but my life-style makes it damned difficult to cultivate. Something's gonna change ... Two more cents' ... Barb
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- Re: Anti-Social Americans Fred H Olson WB0YQM, August 4 1995
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