Vision statement sreening new members: fragility of new groups | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (Exchange) (RobsanExchange.MICROSOFT.com) | |
Date: Thu, 20 Jun 1996 11:32:35 -0500 |
Todd wrote: >When you join Cascadia Commons, you sign on to those values. If you don't >agree with them, you don't join. This is a pretty strong deterrent to right >wing politics. > >I think this is very smart. Beleive me, you want to have as cohesive a group >as possible in order to get this HUGE undertaking done with the least amount >of tears and people leaving, etc. A young group is FRAGILE, you are barely >held together by anything and people can leave whenever they want. Once you >get salted a bit, and you grow some together you can withstand some shots, >but when you are new, it is very easy for the group to dissolve and whole >project go under. The only thing that keeps early groups going is your vision >and dreams. So concentrate your early meetings on building bonds, sharing >life histories and dreams. Find ways to create community amoung yourselves >first, then start taking on big risks and scary stuff. Make a community >first amoung the people, then set out bulding one. I think a HUGE mistake >cohousers make is that they think once we get all this building stuff done we >will have community. WRONG! Community is built every time you get together. >So take time to make bonds and connections. It would be tragic to put all the >time and money into building a neighborhood and then discover that the people >around you are functionally strangers who you know their meeting style but >nothing else about them. > >Don't even THINK about trying to secure a site until you have a good meeting >process, a conflict resolution process and know each other really well. If >you don't know how to build community, find somebody (like me) to help you. >Until you get a site secure your group is very fragile, once you have a bunch >of people with serious money invested, you can take the bumps because those >who invest money are committed. But still you want people who are compatable >and can work together. Defining who you are and what you want via a vision >statement can be a very effect way of bringing together compatable people. >You really don't want just anybody invovled in this stage, you want people >you can trust and hopefully even like, otherwise you aint going make it as a >community, and you will have missed the whole point of cohousing. Later on, >when lots of the scary, hard stuff is over, you will be very strong as a >group and can take on all kinds of stuff and not even hiccup. But when you >are new and tentative, getting sucked into major philosophical disagreements >coupled with bad meeting process can fragment your group and kill the >project. I have seen 12 cohousing groups go down in flames in the early >stages because people did not have a clue how to deal with each other, much >less make decisions and function as a group. Since there was nothing really >at stake, people just left the group until it died. I watched this happen >just last month with a group that met twice. There was no one left to >organize a third meeting. > >Rob Sandelin >Northwest Intentional Communities Association
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