Cohousing-L Mailing List: Post Move-In Reactions

[Michael Mariner (mykano]

It takes so long to get a project built, that once people get moved in 
they can and do have a wide range of reactions.  Some of these feelings 
are transitory and other phases evolve certainly.  Here's some I've heard 
of:

- Ecstacy - a dream realized at last!

- Burn out - hide out for a few months until energy returns for community 
participation.

- "Is that all there is?"  You hoped for more community than you're 
getting.

- "Ick, I need more privacy! Please stay out of my face! I wanna put up a 
privacy fence."

- After move in I didn't drop any of my outside activities, so I never 
get to do anything in my community.


Anybody want to mention other reactions, tell your story?


Those of you somewhere in the building process, don't get discouraged.  
Some of the post-move in stuff is like post partum.  I guess, not being 
an authority on either....

Mike Mariner


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