Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Lynn Nadeau (welcomeolympus.net) | |
Date: Thu, 14 May 1998 00:38:34 -0500 |
The question is raised by non-cohousers, What makes coho any better or different from a regular neighborhood with block parties or such? You can increase community by having time together. Cohousing acknowledges that residents, like everyone else, are busy with their work, families, other organizations, and personal concerns. The trick is to create opportunities to be together, around stuff that people have to do anyway. Like, you have to eat supper. So if you eat supper with others, you don't have to "add" that into your already full schedule. Ditto for picking up your mail, gardening (if you do), and parking your car. By arranging things so people's paths intersect, as they do what they have to do anyway, they get to know each other better, share information and moral support, and feel more connected. In a regular neighborhood, this can happen some while people are out in their yards, for example, or if pedestrian paths pass by porches. Or when children mix with neighbor children, and parents go to the neighbors' house in search of their kids, and end up chatting. It's not usually as much as in cohousing, but it can happen. There are a lot of "mind your own business" taboos in place which inhibit mixing. Many people want to be connected with others, but are unsure if it's ok. Cohousing replaces the concerns about invisible taboos with permission, even an invitation, to socialize and look out for each other. Another binding factor in cohousing is common purpose. A regular neighborhood is more likely to come together if, for example, they need to fight plans to run high-speed traffic through an area with many children, or to get permission to plant a vacant lot in gardens. Cohousing creates lots of common-purpose potential: gardens, task forces on various issues, design issues, hands-on projects, problems to solve, events to plan. So, I'd conclude that there can be overlap, but that being in cohousing provides a great many more opportunities for community building than does a regular neighborhood, even a fairly cohesive one.
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co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Deb Smyre, May 13 1998
- RE: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Rich Lobdill, May 13 1998
- Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness James Nordgaard, May 13 1998
- Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Lynn Nadeau, May 13 1998
- RE: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Robin D. Ellison, May 14 1998
- RE: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Rob Sandelin, May 14 1998
- Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Jim Willits, May 14 1998
- Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness Jim Willits, May 14 1998
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