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From: C2pattee (C2patteeaol.com) | |
Date: Wed, 19 Apr 2000 13:38:42 -0600 (MDT) |
dear folks, greater hartford (connecticut) cohousing had a great article on the front page of the hartford courant last november. it served to bring in a lot of us who'd been looking for somthing just like this, and many of us are now active members of the group. the text of the article is below. if you want to go to the article itself, with color photo of pioneer valley, just click on the link below <A HREF="http://www.ctnow.com/scripts/editorial.dll?render=y&eetype=Article&eeid= 1005774&ck=&ver=hb1.2.20">Click here: ctnow.com </A> or cut 'n' paste the following into your browser: http://www.ctnow.com/scripts/editorial.dll?render=y&eetype=Article&eeid=100577 4&ck=&ver=hb1.2.20 submitted by Christine Pattee Greater Hartford CT Cohousing c2pattee [at] aol.com Commitment To Community By DANIELA ALTIMARI The Hartford Courant November 22, 1999 For Shelly DeMeo, the sense of isolation that permeates the typical American suburb became tangible when her elderly next-door neighbor died and she didn't hear the news for two weeks. DeMeo began searching for a different kind of community, a place where neighbors frequently share meals and look after one another instead of sequestering themselves behind tall hedges. Graphic- Residents at the Pioneer Valley co-housing project "circle up" before one of the twice-weekly shared meals at the projects community center. It is one of the many things shared in the community, although the residents own their own homes. ``I don't want to drive into my garage and shut the door,'' says DeMeo, a 34-year-old piano teacher who lives with her husband and three children on a quiet side street in West Hartford. ``I want more connectedness with my neighbors.'' DeMeo believes she has discovered a better way to live. It's called cohousing. She and about a dozen like-minded people hope to build the state's first cohousing community. The group, Greater Hartford Cohousing, has been meeting since July and is searching for a site in central Connecticut. To the uninitiated, this experiment in group living may conjure images of barefoot hippies sharing bowls of brown rice and tofu while pondering world peace. In reality, cohousing is a cross between a condo complex and a commune. Residents own their own homes while sharing responsibility for chores such as lawn mowing and gardening. They pay a monthly fee. But unlike condominium dwellers, denizens of cohousing communities are enmeshed in their neighbor's lives. They look after one another's children and participate in meetings, classes and weekly communal dinners. More important, they share common values, including the belief that a measure of autonomy must be sacrificed for the greater good of the community. The concept was born in Denmark in the late 1960s and spread to the United States and Canada about 20 years later. There are now more than 100 cohousing communities completed or in development across the nation, including 17 in New England. They range from a rustic collection of farmhouses near the coast of Maine to urban townhouses in Cambridge, Mass. Most cohousing communities are newly built, designed by the people who live there. In some cases, however, residents of existing neighborhoods have banded together and adopted the tenets of cohousing without constructing new homes. The notion of making decisions in concert with one's neighbor may strike some as contrary to the much-cherished American values of independence and freedom. But there is a long tradition of communal living in the United States, from the transcendentalists who founded the utopian community of Brook Farm in 1841 to '60s radicals who joined communes in the countryside. Most of those experiments ultimately failed. But advocates of cohousing say their model is more realistic. ``People think cohousing is one big commune,'' said DeMeo, who learned about the movement by stumbling onto a Web site maintained by devotees, www.cohousing.org. ``We're not talking about sharing our home. We're not talking about sharing the same gallon of milk.'' Lentil Soup And Chicken Conversation punctuated by the clang of silverware fills the common room in the Pioneer Valley Cohousing Community in Amherst, Mass. It's dinnertime on a recent Wednesday and dozens of families have gathered under a soaring ceiling for lentil soup, baked chicken and salad as well as a hefty helping of neighborly banter. Residents share supper at least once a week. Meals are prepared simply and are often filled with vegetables grown in the community's organic garden. Cooking, like other communal tasks, is a shared responsibility. Everyone takes their turn. The collection of 32 houses sits in a 26-acre meadow in the north end of this college town. Built in 1994, it is home to roughly 100 people - University of Massachusetts professors, architects, teachers and engineers as well as several artists, a juggler and a professional storyteller. There are single parents, gay couples, retirees and children. Despite the mix of ages and sexes, Pioneer Valley, like many cohousing communities, isn't all that diverse: Nearly all the faces are white. The houses - duplexes, triplexes and single-family units with open floor plans and unfinished basements - are compact, reflecting the group's ``small is better'' ethos. They aren't necessarily cheaper than houses in a conventional subdivision. Prices range from $72,000 to $140,000, plus monthly fees of $90 to $175. When residents were asked to explain the appeal of their lifestyle, a gush of glowing responses tumbled forth. ``Someone else cooks dinner two days a week,'' said Reenie Humpage, 55, who grew up in Winsted and lived in Hartford and Bloomfield before moving to Pioneer Valley. ``And I don't have to mow the lawn because people like Reenie enjoy cutting the grass,'' said Lou Conover, a 44-year-old software engineer. Humpage says the community reminds her of a traditional small town, before the rise of subdivisions with gates, cul-de-sacs and large lots. ``There's the same sense of neighborhood that I remember from growing up in Winsted,'' she said. ``We knew our neighbors. People didn't move away every couple of years to take a new job.'' Not Nirvana That's not to say that the Pioneer Valley cohousing development is perfect. Because every decision that affects the community must be unanimous, decision-making can be cumbersome and minor squabbles can drag on for months. One of Pioneer Valley's most fevered battles centered on the question of whether cats would be allowed. (In the end, the pro-feline forces won.) Complications have arisen when friendships fade or couples divorce. Although most residents are friendly with one another, they are not all best friends. ``I'm cordial to everyone,'' said Humpage's husband, Peter Jessop, who developed the community and now lives there. ``I respect everyone. But I'm not going to hang out with everyone.'' Then there's the strain that close living and a loss of privacy can bring. ``You just can't go off and do whatever you want,'' Humpage said. ``You have to listen to your neighbors.'' DeMeo says she's not naive about the downsides of cohousing. But to her, the trade-off is a worthy one. The Greater Hartford Cohousing group has met with Jessop and other cohousing builders and is searching for a site in Hartford or the surrounding suburbs, but it has yet to develop a detailed plan. The process takes time. Several years will elapse between conception and moving day. But members say they are eager to get to work. ``I like the idea that we'll be working out problems together,'' said Pat Russell, a retired Hartford teacher who launched a second career as a psychotherapist. She lives in a condominium complex in Newington. For Russell, 60, the idea of living close to neighbors of various ages is the greatest allure of cohousing. ``I don't want to live in senior housing and be segregated in that way,'' she said. ``I'm at a place in my life where this seems like a good alternative.'' Greater Hartford Cohousing is holding an informational session and slide show at the Faxon branch library, New Britain Ave., West Hartford at 7 tonight. Anyone in terested in learning more is welcome to attend. Please call Shelly DeMeo at 860-561-4333. submitted by Christine Pattee Greater Hartford CT Cohousing c2pattee [at] aol.com
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