Cohousing-L Mailing List: Newbies-was "boderline off topic"

[Elizabeth Stevenson (tamgoddess]

This is primarily a working list for people who are actively building
cohousing. The people on this list are hard-working, intelligent people who
care about others. I find it a little disingenuous for someone to start
posting criticism of those who have given a lot of their time to help others
achieve their dream of living in cohousing.

Your point is taken that perhaps we expect people to be ready to rock and
roll as soon as they post to the list. I have found that the newcomer who
lurks for awhile and searches the archives to answer some questions, usually
comes to the list ready for dialogue on their questions. Sometimes it can be
difficult to have someone challenge you right away, when you're feeling a
little timid already. But it is almost always constructive.

Perhaps you could think of us as a kind of soup kitchen for community
builders. You walk in the door, you're handed a spoon, and told to get to
work. Maybe it's a little off-putting, but we mean well and get important
things done.


-- 
Liz Stevenson
Southside Park Cohousing
Sacramento California
tamgoddess [at] attbi.com

>>> In my experience, this mailing list is relatively polite.
> 
> I can see how you'd say that this list is relatively polite.
> 
> Relative to most online chat rooms and bulletin boards it is certainly
> polite.  Relative to many TV shows, it is very polite.  Relative to driving
> in traffic, this list is most polite.
> 
> Relative to my actual face to face experience of living in community, it is
> not nearly as welcoming and affirming.
> 
> If this list is to be someone's introduction to cohousing, I would like the
> newcomer to be welcomed and given as much kind consideration as possible.
> Unfortuanately, this does not always happen, possibly in part because others
> on this list may assume too much prior knowledge.

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