Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Feeling Unwelcome

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

on 7/13/2002 12:45 PM, Maggie at maggie [at] fairy-godmother.com wrote:

> I have a story about being unwelcome after being invited to a group in the
> early stages of forming (some 7 years ago)It was more than just a feeling
> that I had of not being welcome!  After two meetings, I did not hear about
> any further meetings or locations.  After what seemed like the time had
> passed and they must have had another meeting I called the person I had had
> initial contact with.  He told me that the group did not think that I was a
> very good "fit"!!

I think this may also have something to do with the stage a group is in
whether everyone feels comfortable with a new or different member. In a
group of 3  households, a new household not related to the same network the
3 are from may feel uncomfortable to the group.

But if the same household appeared much further down the line when the group
was stronger and more fully understood that everyone is necessary to get a
project off the ground, they would be more welcoming and open to
differences.

NOTE: Some time ago a woman contacted me about doing some booklets for
people interested in cohousing and new groups. She was going to collect and
organize the information and keep it updated. If you know who this was,
please have her contact me again.

Sharon
-- 
Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org


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