|Re: 3 top conflict sources||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Catya Belfer-Shevett (catyahomeport.org)|
|Date: Thu, 22 May 2003 06:16:03 -0600 (MDT)|
To add another arena, from a group yet again back to land search..(this is, of course, only my personal take, and i'm not speaking for the group.)
I'd say our largest recurring conflict, or perhaps recurring heavily-emotional-issue, has been how newer folks to the group deal with those of us who are out of the closet as poly and/or queer. Three aspects generally show up - personal comfort, PR, and marketing.
We have some stuff in place to try to deal with this, and we get better at it with each semi-regular meltdown about it, but WOW is it hard.
Our current solutions include: PR: Strategy - keep a low profile1 - no links to personal home pages off of the website, and no full names on the website. 2 - keeping those of us who are out of the closet, especially with easily web-searchable names and web presence, out of town meetings, newspapers, press contact, etc.
Marketing / Prospectives: be open about itThe last thing we want is to surprise anyone months down the road, so from introductory meetings (which i run) onward, people who are out of the closet stay out of the closet.
Personal Comfort:1 - Mentors check in with new folks to see if they have any questions / concerns
2 - Q&A and discussion as neededAdvice on this one is welcome, I could really do without completely derailing the work of the group onto people melting down about this stuff, again.
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- Re: 3 top conflict sources Berrins, May 21 2003
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