Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: In response to the responses (apology)

[Bryan Syverson (Bryan]

To Norm and other Cohousing-L members,

You're correct. My response was impulsive and I regret it. Please accept my 
apology.

-Bryan

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Racheli Gai" <racheli [at] sonoracohousing.com>
To: "Cohousing-L communities" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
Sent: Sunday, October 21, 2007 1:36 PM
Subject: [C-L]_ In response to the responses to Norm's last email (on 
CHmanagement)


> Hi Katie, Maggie and Bryan.
> Reading your responses below made me cringe.
>
> It's ironic that  people such as yourself, who don't like Norm's 
> complaining
> doing your own complaining,  and doing so by using sarcasm, no less!
>
> I  think that Norm's emails are not easy to read: I'm sure they're trying 
> many people's
> patience, and perhaps they are even self defeating. but I don't see the 
> mode
> of response used by you, Katie (about the "Cohousing police"), and 
> Maggie -
> with Bryan's approval - (about how much fun Norm must be) as acceptable.
>
> There must be a way of offering criticism in a gentle and more accessible
> way if the effort is meant to reach the person people are complaining
> about, as opposed to just causing humiliation.
>
> Thanks for listening,
> Racheli.
>
>
>
>
>
> Thank you, Maggie, for saying what's been on my mind for some time...
>
> -Bryan Syverson
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> Norm...you must be a barrel of fun to live with!!
> I can't help wondering if using Sociocracy to govern your community would
> help all concerned...
>
> Norm wrote:
>
> > Different ways to manage the common house.  What kinds of
> management policies are practiced in cohousing land? ...
>
> Norm,
>
> What do you hope to accomplish by repeatedly posting your gripes with
> your community to Coho-L? Do you expect someone to send in the
> Cohousing Police to whip your community into shape? I find it
> especially passive-aggressive (or something) the way you phrase your
> specific complaints in the form of innocuous-sounding requests for
> information. Based on what I've read in your messages, I can say with
> some confidence that you would not be any happier at Eastern Village.
>
> Katie
> Eastern Village Cohousing