Not sure about the legal system for troubled teens | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com) | |
Date: Sat, 13 Dec 2008 17:51:22 -0800 (PST) |
My personal opinion based on my experiences in my geographic area is that the police and court systems are not designed to, nor do they, heal anybody. In my work with troubled teens and my own past troubled teen experiences, the legal system was and is a huge failure in solving teen angst. It may be better in other places. But again, in my area, with the current budget problems, they are cutting EVERY ONE of the few youth programs that exist. I myself would not put any kid into that system unless it was obvious that the child was going to seriously hurt somebody else. A wild and unruly teenager is not going to find much in my local judicial system other than close encounters with more serious criminals. Jail, even the juvenile ones, tend to be training programs for criminals rather than any place to offer redemption. It was true in the 70's when I was in that situation and from everything I hear from some of the kids I work with, it has not changed. Many people are afraid of teenagers and I have seen folks react to stuff which is simply goofing around by teenagers but because people were afraid, they cast it in the worse of lights. I had a parent come to me because there were some teenage boys hanging out in the parking lot and they were "concerned" that something bad was happening. The kids were playing hacky sac and hanging out, using the parking lot to be free from the overly scrutinizing and critical eye of parents. Sure, they said the "F" word as they missed a kick, but hey, they are just kids. Boys are often more physical and energetic than some people are comfortable with but this does not make them bad. Skateboarding is a popular conflict in my area, and kids challenge authority sometimes. But trying to make them into criminals for this, while popular with some folks, is an over reaction. Sometimes parents of teen boys get overloaded with over reactions to their kids, and so, like the kid who cried wolf too many times, they might under react in some situations. Its not that they think their kid is not a problem...its the level of the problem they disagree about. Now, a report of...setting fires can sound like arson. So I had some kids the other day make themselves a fire in a vacant lot, sort of a campfire situation. Were they setting fires and being dangerous? If you were afraid of teenagers and saw it, this might be how you view it. Even when people are present in the situation it is possible to misunderstand what the actual reality is. This is where a good family counselor can help everybody involved, because not only can they shine a light on the actual actions, they can also shine a light on attitudes and reactions which cause misunderstanding of events to happen. I once cut my finger while cooking a meal. A bit later a neighbor who was a nurse came rushing into the commonhouse to render assistance and take me to the hospital. She was told that there was blood everywhere and that I had passed out. There was some blood, and I did sit down because as a guitarist injuries to my hands are a bit traumatic. In the telling it had escalated. And that was from people who LIKED me. Imagine how things can escalate from people who don't like you, or are afraid of you. There is an old saying: You can spill some water on a friend and they will laugh, but if you spill a bit of water on someone that doesn't like you it becomes a crisis. Rob Sandelin Middle and High school teacher Sharingwood Community Snohomish County, WA
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