|Re: Community Conflict & Defiance of Community Rules [was Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 85, Issue 7]||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Frances Freewater (freedoansonic.net)|
|Date: Sun, 6 Feb 2011 12:03:50 -0800 (PST)|
Sorry but I missed what the conflict was. Could you resend me that part.
thank you, frances freewater yulupa cohousing Santa Rosa CA On Feb 6, 2011, at 10:36 AM, Sharon Villines wrote:
On 6 Feb 2011, at 1:20 PM, Martha Lee wrote:Overruling decisions without a rationale, Sabotaging team efforts, Demeaning others, Verbal intimidation, Harassment, Incivility, Teasing, Gossiping, Purposely withholding business informationI think you desperately need outside help. You probably won't be able to get approval to use community funds for this because if people won't step up to correct the situation, they won't vote to use money to do it.I would get as many people together as possible who will help pay a consultant and hire someone. The argument that it won't be effective unless everyone "buys in" is neither true nor helpful. Accepting it will only result in no action and further deterioration of community governance.The argument that you don't want to give cohousing a bad name by asking public agencies, including the police for help is also not helpful. If nothing else, cohousers are citizens of the world and law abiding citizens. This doesn't sound like smoking pot after dark; it sounds physically and financially dangerous.How you find the right person? Others on the list will know better than I do and will probably contact you off-list to offer suggestions. The best you can do is describe your situation to those who are recommended and see if their responses seem workable to you. A local person, obviously, would be best since this will take time resolve, plus ongoing support and refreshers so you will need to avoid travel costs unless the exact right person happens to live far away. Or they will move in for a few months.I'm sorry to hear things have gotten to this point. Freedom is not always what it is cracked up to be.Sharon ---- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org _________________________________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/
Re: Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 85, Issue 7 Martha Lee, February 6 2011
Community Conflict & Defiance of Community Rules [was Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 85, Issue 7] Sharon Villines, February 6 2011
- Re: Community Conflict & Defiance of Community Rules [was Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 85, Issue 7] Frances Freewater, February 6 2011
- Community Conflict & Defiance of Community Rules [was Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 85, Issue 7] Sharon Villines, February 6 2011
- Re: Bullying (was Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 85, Issue 7) Ellen Keyne Seebacher, February 14 2011
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