Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: A lovely poem about living in community: Dishwasher Repair

[Ann Zabaldo (zabaldo]

Raines — thank you so much for posting this poem.  I’ve already posted it to my 
community.

As you, I did so much hear “… the echoes of living in cohousing …”  I wonder 
how a poem about Takoma Village, where I live, would be the same or different?  

Sometimes I think all the bodies in cohousing are the same.  It’s the faces and 
brains that are different.  This reflects my thinking about how uniform the 
silos are that cohousers access to create their community and how very 
different each community is. (Can you end a sentence w/ a verb?)

We spend so much time dealing w/ the day to day challenges of living together … 
would like to hear more of the “art” that lives in our cohousing communities.

Thank you, Courtney Martin.  This is a beautiful poem.  And, thank you, Raines, 
for posting it.

Best —

Ann Zabaldo
Takoma Village Cohousing
Washington, DC
Ex. Dir. & Mbr. Board of Directors
Mid Atlantic Cohousing
Principal, Cohousing Collaborative, LLC
Falls Church, VA
202.546.4654
zabaldo [at] earthlink.net

I’ve been watching my weight...
It’s still there.

NOTE:  Please use zabaldo [at] earthlink.net for email.

> On Mar 8, 2023, at 6:00 PM, Raines Cohen <rc3-coho-L [at] raines.com> wrote:
> 
> This had many echoes for me of the joys and challenges and delights and
> surprises and opportunities and limits of living in cohousing.  — Raines
> (from Berkeley Cohousing, a mile or two away from her community)
> 
> By Courtney Martin at Temescal Commons cohousing in Oakland (CA), on her
> blog, the examined family
> 
> https://courtney.substack.com/p/dishwasher-repair
> 
> Dishwasher repair A poem about community
> 
> for Temescal Commons
> 
> 
> Here you will find five handheld brooms and dustpans with children’s names
> on them,
> 
> a persimmon tree coveted by squirrels and tended by tired humans,
> 
> a laundry line not infrequently decorated with the linens of an old, fierce
> woman,
> 
> a time capsule deep in the ground that doesn’t contain the jeans my husband
> hates.
> 
> 
> Here you will smell jasmine as you make your way to the bike shed to
> wrestle with the stubborn lock,
> 
> the taste of common meal—basil pesto, white rice, charred broccoli,
> 
> the feel of a child hiding under the table, brushing up against your legs
> while you eat the meal,
> 
> the sound of fingers plucking at a banjo floating down from the window.
> 
> 
> Here is customized tenderness:
> 
> Pick the weed that makes your neighbor sneeze.
> 
> Approach the shy child gently.
> 
> Leave some kale for the other families.
> 
> Build a shelter for the cat, unprompted.
> 
> Hang a disco ball in the branches during a pandemic.
> 
> Try to get the recycling right, even once.
> 
> 
> The heartbreak here is very human:
> 
> bodies that don’t work like they used to,
> 
> gods that no longer serve,
> 
> squabbling siblings, boring meetings, and childhood wounds that never quite
> heal,
> 
> a water heater that was doomed from the start.
> 
> 
> The lessons here are mostly endurance and delight:
> 
> no one is ever thrown away,
> 
> just order pizza and forgive yourself,
> 
> put someone else’s kid in the red wagon and circle the block, even better
> if you blast Lizzo from your cell phone,
> 
> look in the telescope in the yard and remember how small you are,
> 
> sometimes you just have to say the thing,
> 
> sometimes you just have to not say the thing.
> 
> 
> Here, the harvesting sometimes vexes the elder,
> 
> the car window glass glitters on the sidewalks next to the sour grass,
> 
> the church was going to be a condo but is somehow a church again,
> 
> the blackberries can be too sour some seasons.
> 
> But then, once a decade, a miniature horse shows up in the yard like a
> miracle,
> 
> once a day, a couple circles the block like a miracle.
> 
> 
> Here, the chrysalis attached to the hose rack is lined with a filament of
> pure gold,
> 
> and somehow you don’t miss it when the Monarch emerges,
> 
> as if it wanted to be witnessed despite being an ethereal thing.
> 
> And just when you can’t parent one more minute someone else reads a book to
> your child,
> 
> then your child becomes a teenager and writes her college essay on here.
> 
> Here has given her a dozen aunties and a thing to roll her eyes at other
> than you.
> 
> She returns with the sturdiness of being known.
> 
> He returns fabulous in platform shoes.
> 
> The ping pong table is out, grab a beer, and watch the tiny white ball fly.
> 
> Yell to knucklehead across the yard with his constellation of puppies.
> 
> 
> Here, the magnolias and cala lillies are almost obscene.
> 
> Sometimes it’s hard to feel worthy of all this abundance.
> 
> But who are you not to enjoy a dance party in the courtyard, a glass of
> sour homemade lemonade, shishito peppers passed over the fence?
> 
> Who are you not to accept and offer up grace.
> 
> The simple things are never as simple as you’d expect them to be, but the
> hard things are much easier.
> 
> Love sometimes looks like dishwasher repair.
> 
> The nights aren’t getting any quieter or safer, so we might as well worship
> the way here composts our human condition.
> _________________________________________________________________
> Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at:
> http://L.cohousing.org/info
> 
> 
>