Cohousing-L Mailing List: Eighth article on "Especially Challenging Behaviors" now available in Communities magazine

[Diana Leafe Christian “Diana Leafe Christian” Webinars (dianaleafechristianwebinars]

Hello,

The eighth and last article in eight-part article series for Communities 
magazine, "Working Effectively with Especially Challenging Behaviors," is 
available now, in the Summer, 2024 issue.

Especially challenging behaviors often trigger conflict. They are consistent 
and persistent behaviors -- not like when someone has a bad day. These are 
behaviors that the person usually can't change, not even with empathy and 
Nonviolent Communication,Heart Shares, Talking Stick Circles, Wisdom Circles, 
in-house mediation attempts, or outside communities consultants and conflict 
resolution specialists. The only things community members can usually do is to 
set clear, fair, and firm limits and boundaries on the person's behaviors, 
although not on the person themselves. This can take some skill, finesse, and 
courage!

The first seven articles in the Especially Challenging Behaviors series are 
available for you online at gen-us.net/dlc <http://gen-us.net/dlc>.
        1st article - Introduction, description of the behaviors, why 
communities, including cohousing, are especially vulnerable to them.
        2nd article - Why the first step is to learn ore about the behaviors: 
how they manifest, what causes them, and what to expect when one or more 
community members has these behaviors. And why the second step is to lower your 
expectations that the person will change (or is able to change).
        3rd article - How individual community members can  protect themselves 
in various ways, especially by setting limits and boundaries, Part 1.
        4th article - What individual community members can do, Part 2.
        5th article - What groups of friends in community can do to help each 
other and help their communities.
        6th article - What whole communities can do to set limits and 
boundaries on the behaviors (not the person) -Part 1.
        7th article - What whole communities can do to set limits and 
boundaries, Part 2.

The eighth article, available now, is on why most communities don't want to or 
cannot set limits and boundaries on these behaviors. And encouragement for why 
it's important to do so anyway!

I've started sharing this in a five-week online class. The February class on 
Working Effectively with Especially Challenging Behaviors was packed, and I'm 
doing another one in September. I'm also doing two five-week Sociocracy 
classes, Part One in July and Part Two in October. When practiced correctly 
Sociocracy can help reduce these behaviors in meetings. For more information on 
these classes go to www.earthaven.org <http://www.earthaven.org/>. Click 
"Events" at the top right, and "Classes and Events" will come up. Scroll down a 
bit and click "Live Online" and you'll see descriptions of these and other 
classes. (Coho-L software doesn't allow long URLs so I haven't uploaded it 
here.)  

Or email me at diana [at] ic.org <mailto:diana [at] ic.org>. I'd love to hear 
from you

Thank you!

Diana Leafe Christian