Cohousing-L Mailing List: Personal communicationwork, was: Reality check of lofty values

[Rob Sandelin (floriferous]

Just to add a bit here on this theme:

Be clear about what interpersonal stuff you are willing to sign up for. I
have been to many groups where this is not clear at all, some people expect
a great deal of inter personal communications work, others have no such
interest or expectations and are quite clearly not willing to do the work
involved. This can be a friction point.

I recommend doing a ranking of  how people in your group feel about this
kind of stuff, and then, if there are folks interesting in exploring inter
personal communications work, letting those folks do that amoung themselves
without demanding it of everyone else. I have heard good things about
Non-violent communication and there is also some good co-counselling skills
which are becoming more available.

I would love to hear about what peoples experiences with various
interpersonal communications workshops and such have been.

Rob Sandelin, on the road, currently in NE Texas